In this article, I'm going to share 5 practical techniques to make you charismatic.
Charisma isn't some innate, esoteric ability that only the lucky among us possess. People aren't born charismatic. It is a skill that anyone can develop if they put in the time.
Charisma is essentially about body language. It's the non-verbal behaviours you can't control that reveal your mental state to the world. You've probably heard the idea that you can't fake a real smile.
How do you trick your subconscious mind then? The human mind can't tell the difference between imagination and reality, so it is pretty simple. By imagining a charismatic, internal state your mind sends the same instructions to your body as if you were actually being charismatic. Which then creates a positive feedback loop.
Charisma also requires presence. You are hard wired to divide your focus, searching for new stimuli that could be important to your survival. Unfortunately, that means you aren't centring one hundred percent of your focus on the conversation at hand. The more present you become, the more charismatic you'll appear.
Evolutionarily, you're attracted to people that can protect you and have your best interests at heart. That means, if you can demonstrate you are both powerful and kind, people will flock to your side in admiration.
And finally, you need to make a great first impression. Compliment people, ask open-ended questions, make the conversation about them and keep the topics positive. As John Kenneth Golbraith once said 'We seek to reaffirm our first impressions, not revise them.'