I’m on day three of my journey now, and I already feel like I’m making headway. I have a general direction in which to stride, but I’d rather have my compass out and be heading toward the big ‘X’ on my map.
Ultimately, I’m still talking about goals and planning then. I will be using tomorrow’s article to fully and completely write out my goals. Today I have still spent a bit of time reading to try to learn a few more powerful techniques to add to my repertoire.
Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
Yes. Today I went to the most well-known self-help guru of our age, Tony Robbins. I thought, “If anyone can provide me with that last little nugget of information, it will be him.” And he didn’t let me down.
I don’t know whether it’s necessary for me to go through my entire learnings from the book or just those that relate to my current purpose, but let me know in the comments if anyone has a preference. Most of the book can actually be re-purposed to help me plan them accordingly anyway.
Re-Frame Your Desire
The most important concept I came across early on in the book is the idea of re-framing your desires to appear as though they are firm decisions rather than fleeting comments. It is the simple difference between:
‘I would like to…’ And ‘I will…’
I would like to do something puts the action as a possibility. It’s almost as if I haven’t fully decided on it yet. I will do something makes me feel as though my mind is made up.
Robbins really stresses that the vocabulary we use, and the way we talk to ourselves, has a huge impact on the way we see reality. The simple change of words in the statement previous shows it clearly. Make a decision now about something you have wanted to do in a while, say it out loud by starting with ‘I would like to…‘ and then ‘I will…‘ Just generally feel how different those statements feel and how empowered you feel after rephrasing it.
It is basically the idea that our descriptions transmute into definitions. Our brain has a hard time to distinguish between those differences and just takes our word for it. We can exploit that error. Using strong words for positive emotions, negative words for neutral emotions and directional words for our goals, we can change habits and enhance our chances of success.
Ask the Right Questions
When we have a problem, we attempt to find a solution. However well hidden, there is a question that we have asked and we’re now seeking the answer. How we ask the question entirely determines the type of answer we’re going to receive.
Re-frame any question you ask to focus on positivity and progress. This is especially powerful to maintain momentum towards your goals. Each morning, ask yourself what you are grateful for and what accomplishments you’re proud of. This sets you up for the day with a positive outlook on life.
The key take home from this book is fairly similar to the past couple. It’s the idea that small decisions can have huge impacts on your life and on society. That message is really starting to drill into now and I’m understanding how important it is for me to deeply think about the decisions I want to make to propel me forwards.
What have I learned from this book?
Life is all about getting pleasure and avoiding pain.
The vocabulary we use has a deep and lasting impact on our behaviour and beliefs.
To find the right answers, ensure you’re asking the right questions.
I definitely enjoyed this book, and will certainly benefit from having read it. Like I said in the introductory paragraph, tomorrow I will finalise my goals and will hopefully see myself on track towards the future I so desperately desire.